Kelly's story
I split up with my husband 5 years ago. I was left with two very vulnerable children aged 9 and 10. My son wasn't to effected but my daughter, well, what can I say, we would have made an unforgettable 'Supernanny' episode. It was a nightmare, all communication, boundaries and behaviour had totally broken down cos for the previous 6 years I had been trying to get my loveless marriage to be something near normal, but my husband wasn't interested in me, my confidence had been drained and I was all but an empty shell the real 'Kelly' had dissolved.
I left with £300 (sold the trampleline), my beautiful parents helped me out with a deposit and I bought a tiny house in Berkshire, where I made a home for us as best I could. The first couple of years were awful, myself and the children where all over the place mentally. I got involved with someone I shouldn't have and had a rollercoaster, nightmare couple of years with him. So now I had to get over my husband and him, double whammy, but hey, I was so vulnerable I didn't know what I was doing, he showed me attention and I anchored on to him for security. I worked all the time at the fab Restaurant that I have worked in since the kids were babies. My mum and dad helped me with the children and little by little we started to build and mend. I decided not to get in anymore relationships until I had got me back and totally knew who I was and wanted to be.
That brought me to my photography. I decided I wanted to make something of my life something to make me proud of myself. I didn't want to get to 80 years old and say Hey I wish I had done..... !! I've been reading about Art Therapy on your website and that's exactly what I did. I enrolled on a 3 year photography course and dived into it. I'm not joking apart from the kids, photography saved me from myself. I was working at the restaurant 6 days a week, studying, bring up two children and trying to mend my broken heart. Well I did it, with sheer determination and hard hard work I got there.
I set up my company www.womanphotograpy.co.uk in April, I had reached my goal, but the best thing is because of all the self help books I read to help me get through I realised I could do what ever I chose to do. My life is mine and I could do whatever I wanted to. So, I set up my perfect job. My two passions in life are people and art so I combined the two and set up as photographer, because I had felt so bad in my life my mission was to make women feel so fantastic about themselves and it is around that I set up my company. I want women to realise how fantastic they are and I give them their moment and my job is to capture that to show them how fab they really are.
Its priceless seeing their faces when they see the photographs of themselves, some even cry!! It touches them deep within themselves the real them, the natural them.
The photoshoots are so much fun and just completely liberating.
So that's me, the company is young and I am looking at ways of getting it out there to all those women. You see Suzy, like you I love reaching out to people making a difference in peoples lives and letting them know that even when they think there is absolutely nothing else left in their life, that's rubbish there is always hope and through adversity you can rise to be whatever you want to be in the world!!!
Best Regards
Kelly
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P.S by the way the kids got through just great and I have two brilliant Teenagers (pains in the arse's) but brilliant.
